EPISODE 2:6 – How to Find Your True Authentic Happiness With Mona Lee Locke

Today we have a very special episode with Mona Lee Locke. She has held many different titles throughout her life and career including journalist at King5, former First Lady of Washington State, Executive Director of Susan Komen Foundation and most recently, the Chief Communications Offer at Swedish Hospital.

Today’s topic centers around identify. We talk about Mona’s identity as a child of Chinese immigrants. Her identity as the governors wife and her identity post divorce as she struggled to define who SHE really was — not how she was defined against others. 

We also dig in the role of family and duty. We talk about how you might be able to have it all — but definitely not all at once. We talk about how women need to lift each other up. And we talk about how to truly define who you are on your own terms. 

To read Mona’s #MeToo essay that we discuss, go to KUOW.

Follow Mona on Facebook.

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Episode 2:5 Turning Your Passions Into a Money Making Side Hustle

To kick off 2020 and inspire new ideas and ways of work, we’re sitting down with Jenny MacLeod – from Jenny Girl Friday – to dig into everything side hustles and entrepreneurship. Jenny is a Seattle resource for self-employed women. She coaches, speaks and writes incredible content.Today we talk about how to take that first jump into starting a business. How to track your expenses and invest in yourself. How to combat the fear of failure. We dig into how to navigate work life balance when you’re starting a new business on the side. And much more!

Contact Jenny and visit her website here: http://www.jennygirlfriday.com/. Here’s a link to joining Sidekick Services — Offers a complete walkthrough of prepping for IRS taxes. Includes printable tools and lots of cheerleading.

Here are a few of Jenny’s favorite resources:

The First Chapter of: The Art of the Start: The Time-Tested, Battle-Hardened Guide for Anyone Starting Anything by Guy Kawasaki

Do the Work: Overcome Resistance and Get Out of Your Own Way by Steven Pressfield

$100 Startup: Reinvent the Way You Make a Living, Do What You Love, and Create a New Future by Chris Guillebeau

And Jenny’s book: How to Become Self-Employed In Seattle: A Guidebook, Companion, and Reference

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Episode 2:4 Why Are We All So Burned Out?

Todays episode is all about boundaries — creating and setting boundaries in your work and personal life so you can focus on what makes you happy and fulfilled. But you can’t talk about boundaries without first talking about burnout. We usually need these boundaries because of the burnout we face. This conversation seems to be everywhere but we’re always talking about extremes — the extreme of burnout, and the extreme of self care culture to combat.

Today, we’re diving into all of this with Jen Hope, a leadership and executive coach (listen to her personal story on Season 1, episode 2).

We try to define what the heck burnout even means and how it manifests so that we can truly understand it. We dive into boundaries and how to first get a sense of your time before you decide what boundaries you need. We talk about shame and the shame you might feel in how you want to spend your time vs. how you feel you “should” you spend your time. We also talk about how to get to know yourself better with respect to burnout and boundaries and we share frameworks for how to communicate to others.

Follow Jen on instagram at @HeyJenHope and her website www.heyjenhope.com.

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Episode 2:3 Giving Yourself Permission To Be A Relationship Novice

Today we’re diving into the topic of romantic relationships and love. This is a topic that seems to bring up so many opinions from so many sources — internal, family, the media, friends. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, how do you navigate all this advice and pursue relationships that are right for you?


Theora Moench, Portland-based dating relationship expert and educator, joins us for a conversation where we dig into the societal myths around partnerships. We talk about what we truly want versus what we’re told to want or think is available to us. We talk about creating passion and resonance versus waiting for it to happen to us. And we talk about why this process is so dang hard. 

Follow Theora on Instagram @thoeramoench and check out her website at www.theoramoench.com.

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Episode 2:2 Fertility Talks – Technology, Ethics And Our Own biology

Today we’re talking about fertility with Alexa, a nurse practitioner that works at a Pacific Northwest fertility clinic.*

As IVF technology has advanced, women have been empowered to live their own “don’t tell me what to do” story when thinking about when to start a family. But sometimes this technology is advancing faster than our ethical standards. And sometimes this technology isn’t advancing fast enough to combat our basic biology.  Today we get into debates surrounding new gene editing technology. We talk about the controversial case in China this year on gene editing for HIV. We talk about who should be responsible for creating new ethical standards as technology advances. We also dig into egg freezing as well as advanced maternal age and mourning the ability to have your own children. Lastly, we chat about how it’s virtually impossible to be an anonymous sperm or egg donor and how this has changed views on what information we might need for our own spiritual growth. 

For more information or to find a fertility clinic near you, visit www.resolve.org.

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*Alexa is choosing not to share her last name or fertility clinic on this episode so that she can be as open as possible. All views are her own.

Episode 2:1 Let’s Stop Fearing Money Talk

Today we’re diving into the black box of finances with Tori Dunlap. She’s a financial coach and millennial money expert who was featured on Good Morning America for achieving her ambitious goal of saving 100K before she was 25.


I personally find it so frustrating and strange that we have a society of college educated millennials with expensive degrees, but with such a gap in financial education — especially for women. Today we’re talking about why and what to do about it. We talk about the fears we have around educating ourself on our own finances and how we can more easily bring it up in our relationships. We talk about finances and the workplace and how to advocate for yourself. And we get into some super practical tips as well. 

Follow Tori Dunlap on instagram at @HerFirst100K and check out her website at www.herfirst100k.com

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Episode 9: Forging A New Path in Living With Chronic Illness

What happens when you’re diagnosed with a chronic illness and medicine just isn’t working? In this episode we talk with Carly Brawner, a health coach and wellness advocate based in Austin Texas. We talk about what happened after she was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s — a thyroid disorder — and how “ditching her endocrinologist” catapulted her into a new career to help others live a more holistic and healthy lifestyle.

Once Carly started asking hard questions and “why” with her health, she started approaching everything else differently as well. This episode is for anyone who has taken their health into their own hands or has watched a love one battle an autoimmune disorder. We dig deep into what it means to passionately advocate for your health and be highly communicative in your relationships to have a wholehearted life.

Connect with Carly on Instagram @frolicandflow and on her website at frolicandflow.me. To learn more about Hashimoto’s, visit Carly’s website or the American Thyroid Institute.

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Episode 8: What To Do Next After a Breakdown-Breakthrough Moment

In this episode, we’re serving up real talk on anxiety and depression with Seattle strength and fitness coach Anna Clausen Williams. We talk about Anna’s “breakdown-breakthrough moment” during a yoga class that precipitated her decision to leave her acting career behind after the realization that her career was at the root of her anxiety and depression. 

Anna talks about how she got the courage to walk away from an acting career she had been building since she was a child and pivot into a life that felt more true to her. She finally asked “what do I want” and “who am I in this world” instead of asking everyone else around her.

What followed was her commitment to help others find their joy through movement and connect with the badasses they are. You’re going to want to lift some heavy shit after this one. 

If you’ve ever felt you might be living your life for others, or feel afraid to try something new, this episode is for you. We talk the hard stuff, but we also laugh (a lot) along the way. 

Follow Anna on Instagram at @AnnaClausenWellness and check out http://www.annaclausenwellness.com to learn more about how to workout and train with Anna in Seattle (and to subscribe to her Feel Good Friday emails!)

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And if you want to try Anna’s morning meditation she shares in this episode, save this image to your phone!

Episode 6: Confessions of an Unemployed CEO

In this episode we dive into the messy middle of what happens after you sell a company and don’t know what happens next. Last November, tech entrepreneur Kristen Hamilton sold her latest company. As the funds crossed the wire, she shut her laptop and froze, asking herself: “what do I do now?”

What followed was a period of pressing the reset button in a way she had never done before. She realized that after this intense change, she needed to be still in order to determine what was next. She entered a period of blank space – one that gave her complete panic, but became a period that was so important.

As a high achiever with her identity wrapped up in tech entrepreneurship and as a CEO, Kristen needed to get super clear on her value moving forward. Listen in as we dig into what this process looked like and empathize with Kristen’s assessment that self-love is so f-ing hard. 

Connect with Kristen Hamilton on LinkedIn.

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Episode 3: Ignoring Your Inner Critic

Sometimes the hardest advice to ignore is our own. Those internal voices that try to guide us in a different direction than we know is right for us. But when we push away our fears and insecurities, we can actually hear the true voices that matter and follow our truth. 

Erin talks about how this process of truly listening to herself led her to make huge life changes that ultimately led her to where she is today. We hear about her decision to leave college and travel for a year, to pick up her life and move to Germany, to start a hostel in Bolivia and ultimately her decision to walk away from it all and start something completely new.

Learn more about Erin’s empowerment coaching services here: http://www.erinmerrihew.com/

Follow her on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/erinmerrihew/

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